Fatherhood and Budgetting

We all grew up differently. Starting with our parents and siblings, friends, the community, the culture, and even the country where we reside. But our primarily factor is our parents and how they influence us. Maybe you have been taught that a father and a mother are the important units in the home but in some families, they did not have the opportunity to experience both. In many factors, problems may become overwhelming and both parents argue, and tension rises in the home that if it is not carefully taken care of, it may end in divorce. In the end, the family suffers. However, as I have observed, parenthood may seem like it is suffering, and many fathers are out of the picture.

 

What is parenthood? Parenthood is the sense of family and it often helps to create a connection within its family members and personal growth. It gives the opportunity to guide, teach values and traditions to future generations. When a child is involved in functional family that loves and respects their children, the outcomes is that they may be able to feel safe and understand new perspectives. I believe that each parent has different responsibilities in the home, but more or less fathers give a greater influence and development to their children. It is important to remember that their goal is to meet the child’s needs and help them discover what they are capable of doing and inspire them to follow their aspirations as they get older. 

 

Another important thing to remember is that couples are meant to help each other and encourage each other in times of struggle rather than getting frustrated. Tension rises specially when it is about budgeting and how we manage it. It is not easy to decide what will be more beneficial for the couple when even both parties disagree and have different interests. This can cause stress and in many cases they will try to avoid it by either not talking about it or buying useless things. Many newlyweds struggle financially as they try to incorporate each other lives together and learn how they can budget their money. In many cases, this kind of problems may help them be vulnerable and help each other out. For instance, my husband and I have been living a bit tight with our money coming in short. We could only buy groceries once a month and barely had any dates. We did what we could around house and if were short with money, we would buy fast food that was cheap or anything we had left over in the fridge. I was starting to get tired and bored with not many resources. However, as we talked about it, our relationship got stronger and not too long ago we received a scholarship that has been helping us live more comfortably. It is not easy to live in a way that it hard to get around but with patience, things will get better if you rely on your spouse and those who you trust. When it comes to finances, it is important to have an open communication, don’t be quick to be upset, obtain that trust, be vulnerable to see from their point of view, and work together. I think it is valuable when a couple is involved rather than only one person, both can help each other through their finances so that way they can keep track on their budget history, I know that when both are involved, their relationship gets stronger, look out for each other, accomplish their goals, and most importantly they are committed to one another. My parents have been a great example to me about how they budget their money. Even though they have separate bank accounts, they come together every week to discuss their finances and are able to come up with new goals. That way they can save up money and are able to organize their budget and focus on what is important.